How should I tell my parents about foreskin restoration?
There is no guarantee that I will; I’m doing this with or without them. However, the method that I’m using, medical tape, can be damaging if not done correctly. The TLC Tugger is said to do well with restoration, but I can’t get it without them knowing it, for I don’t have a credit card. My parents will probably not believe me if I tell them about that circumsion crippled my sexual pleasure and violated my human rights by having it done to me as an infant. Hell, my psychologist didn’t believe it either when I first told him. Also, my parents would probably not trust the tugger anyway, for they would be concerned about whether or not it will work and whether or not it will damage me further. If I do decide to tell them, how am I supposed to do it?
It is all up to you, it is none of their business now as the appearance of your penis should not have been their concern then. As long as it is healthy there was no medical need for any amputation.
Don’t expect a lot of help from parents or "doctors" your parents may well get defensive about a decision that deep down they know was not theirs to make and the "doctor" may well be the one that mutilated you (and certainly many others) and he will defend his little gold mine.
Both your parents and the "doctors" may try, as some idiots here have done, to tell you that you are the only boy they ever heard of that had a problem with this. This is the way it has been handled for decades, when a male resents his genital mutilation he has been made to feel that he is an odd one. But that is a lie, millions of men have resented what was done to them without need or their consent. And now with the internet millions of boys will find out at an earlier age just what has been robbed from them for the flimsiest reasons.
Perhaps one of the best ways to approach this is with a book "Sex as nature interned it" by Kristen O’Hara. If your relationship with your mother is open enough for you to share on matters of sex (not common with "circumcised" boys) you could get her the book from the library (I see it is on Amazon for about $18) and get her to read it. It may well strike a nerve there when she understands how your father’s own "circumcision" has been affecting them in their own physical love. For thousands of years "circumcised" couples have just accepted what they experience as a norm, the physical part of their relationship dwindles at an early age and they just accept that as "getting older". The book points out that what is lacking in many relationships just didn’t have to be that way. Many women have found this book describes just what they have been going through in their marriage. Then they can understand how a boy’s loss can affect his mate too.
As far as restoration methods, for now the manual tugging would likely be your best option. The Tugger is a very good restoration aid, but do you have enough slack skin to get one attached? Many guys do not. T-tapeing is also very effective but may not be easily maintained if you do not have complete privacy, there is the used tapes to dispose of and the tension straps that might show (that won’t get by a nosy mother). The choice of tapes is also critical to avoid irritation so you can’t use just any tape because you will be doing this for months and you will likely get sensitive to it. So that leaves manual tugging as the best way for now to grow the slack skin you will need to use the TLC.
This brings up the safety of restoring, there is no danger of harm as long as you don’t do something that causes pain (just like masturbating). If tugging starts to hurt you are pulling too hard ease up. Seeking medical advice before restoring is pointless because the medical industry will just give you the same old cliche’s about never heard of that, must be some weirdos that don’t accept their "improved" genitals, etc. Just more crap to protect the cash cow.
Some say you should find something else to worry about, I don’t know about what else you need to worry about, but I know that I don’t just worry about other things, I work on other things. Besides owning and operating my own business, I have served my local community government for more than 20 years, I represent an organization of rural interest at the state level, I work to conserve energy and materials in my home, business and community. I do not however spend much time worrying about my golf game (I doubt many guy’s wives do either) or the batting average of some over paid athlete I will likely never meet. There again I don’t think many wives do either. When it comes to the physical part of my marriage my wife shares my interest.
But of all the things I work for, or worry about, this one is for ME.
Even with restoration we can never be whole again, it is to late for us. The most important goal we "circumcised" men have to work on is eliminating this hideous procedure so no more baby boys will be mutilated like we were.
Good luck and K.O.T